How To Get More Out Of Life

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Only you have the power to change your life

 

The one thing that I see every day is unhappy, miserable people. Despite my Facebook and Instagram pages filling up with positivity from the wonderful entrepreneurs, travellers and people that grace my newsfeed, I still find the outside world full of individuals who are hating on life, just simply existing rather then living.

One person that springs to mind in particular was a lady that served me in Woolworths the other day. A shortish, middle aged woman stood idly behind her checkout and despite my smile and ‘how are you today’ greeting all I got in response was a grunt. As she packed my goods in a bag and processed my payment, I kindly thanked her and wished her a good day, and of course, not to my surprise she looked down and grunted once again. No thank you, you have a nice day. There were no good manners or courteous exchanges of the sort.

As I walked back to the car, this really got me thinking what in life had caused this woman to be so unfriendly and impolite? Maybe her husband at cheated on her and left her to raise 3 kids alone? Maybe one of her parents had died young and she struggled to live without them? Maybe she just plain hated her job and wanted to be spending time with her grand kids or holidaying in the Caribbean instead? Whatever it was, this lady acted as though the whole world was against her.

Unfortunately this is not a rarity. This woman was one of many people who I see on a daily basis who seem like victims to their own life, one in which they have sacrificed their dreams and happiness to end up in this monotonous, miserable day-to-day existence.

The sad thing is nobody else is to blame but them. Yes, I know this sounds harsh but it is us that chooses how we think and what we think is reflected back to us in the form of actions and experiences within our lives. Now these thoughts may not have been purposely embedded in our brain, they may have derived from beliefs that were drilled into us when we were younger, but they are still OUR thoughts and we must take responsibility of them if we want to change what we give out and get back in life. If we give out unfriendliness and impoliteness, it is highly likely we will get others acting the same in return and attract negative experiences into our life. On the other hand if we give out love and compassion then you can bet that we will attract loving relationships and great opportunities in return.

What I am talking about here is more then this though, so many people I see on a daily basis are not only failing to take responsibility for their thoughts, they are also failing to claim responsibility for their entire life. They work in their current position because the company they work for won’t promote them. They can’t find a job because their are no jobs out there or nobody will hire them. They can’t get good grades because the teacher is to harsh. They can’t leave their job because their husband won’t let them or they can’t afford it. However this victim mentality is just making them fall deeper into the black hole of misery.

We are born into the world as one person, one individual with our own thoughts, personality and beliefs, so why do we let external factors dictate our lives and turn it into something that we have minimal control over. The answer comes down to this- lack of self love.

As we grow from an innocent child into an adult we are influenced by our parents, teachers, friends, neighbours or even in the media who foster beliefs in us that we carry throughout our lives. Some of these beliefs are positive and make us into great people, but others can be negative and self-limiting, degrading our level of self-love and self-worth and it is these beliefs that prevent us from being the extroverted, valuable and full-of-potential person we were all born to be.

Now I am not blaming the people that inflicted these limiting beliefs into our lives, not at all. They were unaware of the power their thoughts and beliefs were having over you at the time, however in order to overcome these and be the person you want to be, live the life you want to live then you need to become aware, take responsibility for your thoughts and change them. The first step to change starts with you.

Of course, change doesn’t happen overnight, it takes time and it is a process. If you can work hard at school, university or in your job, surely you can work hard at the most important thing and centre of all of that: you. The most significant investment you will ever make in your life is in you, but you need to make that decision to start. Nobody can tell you you need to change, nobody can force you to change, you need to be the catalyst for your own migration to your higher self. Once you have conquered your negative thoughts and limiting beliefs, the world becomes your oyster and you become the greatest version of you imaginable, projecting greatness and receiving greatness back into your life.

How do you do it? Well what it entails is the following:

  1. Figuring out the root cause of your negative thoughts and limiting beliefs
  2. Providing yourself with a ridiculous amount of self-love to combat these
  3. Daily, repeated positive affirmations.

 

FIND THE ROOT CAUSE OF YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS

Firstly you must identify where your problems came from. Reflect back to your childhood, as this is usually when these beliefs take their hold on us. I recommend writing in a table, with three headings Belief, Problem and Cause. Then ask yourself for each belief, what is the problem it has caused and the root cause of it, eg. What is the belief- I am not good enough, Problem- I can’t hold down a relationship, Where did this come from- Bullying at school, abandonment, heartbreak. This may take some time and may be a little emotional, but as you work through them you will come to make more sense of your mind and thoughts to be able to change them through self love and affirmations.

LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF

Secondly we must pour immense amounts of self love into ourselves in order to conquer these self-limiting beliefs. Self love is a difficult concept to grasp but if we are going to have any chance of living the life of our dreams and finding our soul mate, then loving yourself is a crucial step. For me, I had to learn to love myself the hard way after becoming ill with Chronic Fatigue but for you I feel this will be a much more self-willing process. Self-love is about treating yourself as if you were a baby, treating your mind and body with all the delicacy and care it deserves.

Some ways include:

  • Doing things you love
  • Surrounding yourself with uplifting people
  • Eating healthy foods
  • Exercising
  • Practicing mindfulness

Trying to avoid practices like comparing yourself to others, criticising yourself and negative thoughts will also make a huge difference, and while these things may take time, you will find your love for yourself increase profusely when you let them go. Try and make a daily practice of self love, as the more we practice loving ourselves daily, the greater overall love we will end up accumulating.

PRACTICE DAILY AFFIRMATIONS

A great way to re-frame your negative thoughts and retrain your mind to think more positively is through the practice of repeated daily affirmations. Every day for 10-15 minutes sit yourself in front of a mirror and repeat 5-10 positive affirmations that link in with your personal values and that reflect parts of your life that you need to work on. Personally, based on my goals to recover from Chronic Fatigue and build a successful business, my affirmations are centered around these core ambitions. I have listed some great resources for positive affirmations below for you to practice:

35 Affirmations That Will Change Your Life

Louise Hay Affirmations

Wherever you are in this world, you truly deserve to be living the life to the full. With the help of this 3 tier process- uncovering limiting beliefs, loving yourself and positive affirmations- I have no doubt that you will be able to unlock your full potential and get to achieving those goals you have set out in your life. All you need to do is take responsibility for your life and choose to take this first step.

Stay tuned, there will be many more resources on how to transform your life coming soon!

Peace and love

-the Soulful Wanderer

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How To Make Money Online

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Are you a stay-at-home mum looking for an extra income?

Are you a University student looking for some money on the side?

Are you wanting to travel the world and make money while you do it?

Well with the rise of the Internet has come some fantastic new ways for you to make money all from the comfort of your living room or favourite travel destination.  Part-time or full-time, no longer are we restricted by the typical, monotonous 9-5 work environment, but have the freedom to work from our laptop and make money while we do it. It’s all about making money online these days!

All it requires is a little out-of-the box thinking, dedication and some hard work. Think you have what it takes? Well check out some of these methods to figure out if making money online is the right avenue for you.

1. BUILD A BLOG

Is there something that you are passionate about? Gardening? Trading Stocks? Fashion? Surfing? You name it and I guarantee there will be a blog about it. So why not turn your passion into something profitable. Using platforms like WordPress, Blogspot, Tumblr or Weebly you can make a killing with your blogging, but only if you structure it the right way with amazing content. The key is to make sure that you focus on one specific niche, write useful, engaging content and target it very specifically to your desired target market using specific keywords and marketing methods. And there are many ways to make money through blogging including affiliate marketing, advertising, providing additional services such as coaching or training an providing additional products such as courses or books. Stay tuned, there will be plenty more coming your way to teach you how to do all of this! For now, get started and the rest we can perfect later.

2. JUMP ON AIRTASKER

Airtasker is a fantastic tool that has created opportunities and extra income for so many people, all through the fantastic concept of outsourcing. Through this ingenius app that you can download straight to your smartphone, people post every day tasks that need doing, from completing surveys and reviewing websites to cleaning houses or assembling furniture. There are even some requests for food delivery services when people are feeling to hungover to drive! So if you are good at something or are in need of some extra money to pay that big electricity bill, why not give it a go. All you need to do is sign up, register your bank account details and once you bid on the task, if accepted and completed you will get the money in your account within a few days. If you are really digging it, you can even do what my mum did and build a business from it, generating a list of clients that you can do regular and ongoing work for.

3. START A FIVERR ACCOUNT

Fiverr, similar to Airtasker, is a marketing platform but on a more global scale, that involves individuals and businesses outsourcing there often creative work to experts for a fee, usually starting at around $5 US. There are so many different categories you can specialise in- graphic design, digital marketing, IT, advertising, and now there are even Lifestyle categories such as healings, impersonators and health and fitness, just to name a few. So what are you waiting for? If there is something you are skilled in, create an ad with fiverr, set your price and get making some money today! It is a fantastic service and has so much flexibility. Join using my code- https://www.fiverr.com/s2/69ab5a31dc 

4. SELL YOUR STUFF ON EBAY

Most of us have used EBAY before to buy stuff but what about using it to sell things you no longer need and earn a bit of money? Do a springclean and find all the items you no longer need- clothes, kids toys, books, kitchen wear, sporting goods or technology. You will be surprised of the demand of second hand goods out there! Set your price, decide whether you want people to bid on it or just buy it now and create your ad. Easy as that. Alternatively if you are creative such as an artist, jewellery maker or designer, or if you have a whole heap of goods that need selling, you can create an online EBAY store to make your life a bit easier and generate ongoing business. If you a super keen and are wanting to get more eyes on what you are selling or sell it fast, you can also use Gumtree, the Facebook Marketplace or Etsy (for the creatives) as alternative selling platforms.

5. JOIN AN ONLINE BUSINESS

Out of all the things I have tried, this would by far have to be the most effective way to make money, and the most of it, online. Although slightly more involved then the above methods, joining an online business involves selecting the right business, often with a small startup, some training and once you are on your way, the ability to live the freedom of a laptop-lifestyle, working at home in your pyjamas, from your fave coffee shop or whilst travelling the world. In the age of entrepreneurialism, the internet has really pathed the way for this phenomenon, allowing people to get involved in businesses with low overheads and risks and big opportunities and create their own twist on it to generate a usually limitless income. Whether it be digital marketing (my preferred online business with the biggest opportunities), network marketing or affiliate marketing, do your research, find out which one is the most suitable for you and your desired lifestyle and get started. Don’t stress,  as somebody with ample experience with online businesses, I will post more information on this later on.

So there you go, just a few ideas to get you started. I am not one for giving you too much information and overloading you all at once, so if you are keen to know more about how you can make money online, subscribe to my blog for more posts or feel free to contact me on for more information.

Happy Online Money Making!

-The Soulful Wanderer