How To Lose Weight

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If you have been drawn to this page, then there is no doubt that you are a sucker for the latest dieting phase.

Whether it is the 5/2 diet, Ketogenic, Paleo, high protein or any other Yo-Yo dieting scheme, you’ve tried it. And while you may have experienced phenomenal results to start, there is no doubt that you have ended up relapsing after your body has adapted or you’ve become tired of restricting yourself so much!

THE PROBLEM?

We all know that feeling. We have all been there. Sometimes you just look at yourself in the mirror and think, ‘that’s it, I’m starting a new diet.’ You are super motivated, keen to get results, but a few months in after going for coffee with your friend and being tempted by banana bread, you give in to the fighting urge and just eat it. With the one bit of banana bread you have just thrown your ‘diet’ completely out of wack and slowly all the weight piles back on, sometimes even more than before.

You feel guilty, disappointed in yourself, maybe even like a failure. Then comes the feeling of depression, you begin binge eating to hide your emotions and slowly you fall into a vicious cycle.

So the concept of dieting, is it really worth it?

While it may bring about some short term results, in the long term restricting your body of essential food groups, nutrients and vitamins essential for our optimal body functioning can be non-advantageous. Not only that, it can lead to a concept known as ‘dieting-induced weight-gain,’ an increased propensity to gain weight as a result of consistent or long term dieting (Tribole, 2012).

Furthermore, dieting has been linked with obsessive eating behaviours, binge eating, loss of appetite as well as eating with out even being hungry. As a result, scientists have found a causal link between dieting and obesity and eating disorders, (Haines & Neumark-Sztainer 2006).

When we diet, we limit our food intake, causing our body to go into a state of starvation. Suddenly, our survival instincts kick in as our cells have not realised that this form of starvation has been a ‘choice’ rather than us being stranded in the outback with out food for a year.

Our metabolism comes to a catastrophic halt and the cravings for the foods that we are limiting ourselves from gradually increases. Therefore over time the body adapts to the changes, often resulting in rebound weight gain. Not only that but our body becomes unable to distinguish the feeling of hunger and satiety and we lose the ability to determine when and how much food to eat, consequently leading to further weight gain and sometimes even eating disorders. So what does the chronic dieter tend to do as a result of this weight gain? More dieting of course! And so the process begins again.

THE SOLUTION?

But here is a crazy thought, instead following a diet that claims to help you lose weight, why not instead listen to your body? This concept, called Intuitive Eating, is a process involving the returning of your mind and body to teach you to rely on hunger and satiety cues to determine your meal timing and portions.

According to 25 proven studies, Intuitive Eaters have a:

  • Lower BMI
  • Lower levels of eating disoders
  • Greater enjoyment of food and eating
  • Greater range of foods incorporated into their eating
  • Better cholesterol levels
  • Greater psychological hardiness

(Tribole & Resch, 2012)

HOW TO DO IT?

So how do we ditch the diet and reclaim our healthy relationship with food? Here are some ideas.

1. Get off the diet immediately- Throw out all your books, magazines and unsubscribe from your diet fads. Start from scratch with a healthy, wholesome foods. Pinterest has some great resources and soon I will be providing you with some of my favourite blogs for recipes!

2. Reward your hunger and eat regularly- Feed your body when it needs to with the right nutrients. Starving yourself just causes you to feel even more hungry or binge on the wrong foods. You are much better to eat regularly, every 2-3 hours or so not only to maintain your energy levels but to assist in combating your hunger and maintaining your metabolism.

3. Give yourself permission to eat- Do not limit the amount of calories you eat, just make sure when you do you are fuelling your body with the right proteins, fats and carbs to give you long term satisfaction and energy. Listen to your body and ensure that you are maintaining a nutritional intake that balances your energy exertion levels.

4. Don’t Restrict Yourself- If you want to have a piece of chocolate or cake, do it, but in moderation of course. Limiting yourself will just result in bad cravings or causing you to go backwards. On the other hand if you know you are going out and are going to be subjected to lots of unhealthy food, pack a healthy snack such as an apple or almonds to eat BEFORE you eat the naughty foods

5. Eat Mindfully- Recognise the signs that you are no longer hungry. Take your time to chew and taste each mouthful of your food and stop in between to check in on your level of fulfilment. Eating should be a mindful activity with no distractions.

6. Exercise- Don’t see exercise as an act of burning calories, just embrace the joy of being active. Seeing exercise as an enjoyable activity rather than a chore will motivate results and help shift your mind’s focus, to in turn eat more effectively. Exercising with a buddy is also a great weight loss motivator!

7. Deal with Emotions- Rather than eating your emotions, deal with them. If you are feeling upset, cry, if you are feeling angry, punch a punching bag, but don’t turn to food to fix these feelings because at the end of the day eating the wrong foods is just going to make you feel worse.

Most importantly embrace who you are. No matter what weight we are, we are never going to be happy until we can learn to love the person that we are and the value that we have on this earth.

And remember if you ever need any help on your weight loss or fitness journey, as a Personal Trainer and Nutrition Guru, I am always happy to help.

teaghanlee xxx

RESOURCES

Tribole E. (2012). Warning: Dieting Increases Your Risk of Gaining MORE Weight (An Update). www.IntuitiveEating.org

Tribole E. & Resch E. (2012-in press). Intuitive Eating (3rd edition). St.Martin’s  Press: NY,NY.

Haines, J. & Neumark-Sztainer  D (2006). Prevention of obesity and eating disorders: a consideration of shared risk factors. Health Education Research, 21(6):770–782. [Free Full Text http://her.oxfordjournals.org/content/21/6/770.long ]

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The Self-Love Journey

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Self-love has never come easy for me.

As somebody who was naturally shy and introverted, had a rough upbringing in a tense environment, was victim to the bullying and bitchiness at my all girls school, self confidence and self-esteem were never my strong points. And realising I was gay later in life didn’t help either.

So now, at this ripe old age of 28 and suffering chronic illness, naturally all of these feelings have come to the surface and created a need for me to address them with self-love. And the reading from a psychic recently has emphasised that requirement.

Last week, after months of uncertainty and curiosity over the future direction of my life following the break up and resignation of my job, I decided to consult with a psychic in the hope that would give me some kind of direction with my life.

And after much anticipation, the result was a little more comforting then what I thought it would be.

Firstly, and not by any coincidence I think, I found out that my psychic also suffered from Chronic Fatigue. What are the odds of that? I guess this illness is coming more prominent but cannot help but feel this was a sign from the universe!

Secondly, what she said about my current and not-to-distant future situation really helped me see some clarity. In a nutshell, this is what she said:

  1. The reason why I feel as though I am not making progress with my recovery is because my life is at a stand-still and the only thing that will move me forward is radical self love. I must learn to listen to my body more and praise it for what is doing to help me recovery instead of constantly criticising and putting myself down for the things I can’t do. If I am able to, with the help of Mother Mary and Archangel Isis learn to love myself immensely, then my chances of recovering by December 2017 will be greatly improved. I also need to focus on taking slow steps, not setting too bigger goals and enjoying complete rest days when required without feeling guilty.
  2. My relationship with my ex was not a loveless one. My ex did love me and care about me however realised that she had lost control of her life and of the relationship. The break up was her attempt to regain that control and to deal with the issues that had been holding her back. Apparently, she did have regrets about the ending of the relationship and within the next 18 months or so I will receive clarity around that.
  3. In the next 3 months I just need to focus on taking things easy and doing things that I enjoy and that make me happy. Reading, writing, getting out in nature, training, exploring, socialising, cooking, yoga and meditating. All of the things that make me the more grounded person that I am
  4. Between now and 6-8 months time I will surround myself with a network of positive, uplifting women that will help in the healing process. In the process I will meet or may have already met a person who could potentially be my soulmate, if I chose, or at least a friend and within a few months we will move in together. It is my call if this eventuates into anything more.
  5. Within the next 2 years, I will own and operate my own successful business. I will firstly get involved in digital marketing, combined with my marketing expertise, to generate some income, and then eventually will create a business in my own desired field. She also advised me that a job will come up in the next few months that will be a gift from the universe.
  6. She advised me not to stress about money as in a few months I will be offered some money as a gift and encouraged for me to take it. I will also find a way to conquer my financial woes but I just need to relax for now. There is plenty of money in the world and it will find it’s way back to me.

So I guess, from all of that, the most enlightening part was that I need to focus on loving myself and from there everything else will fall into place. Therefore I have made a vow to myself, from this moment forward I will focus on me, putting 100% into making myself the loving, healthy and healed person I was meant to be.

A lot of it will require retraining my thoughts and I intend to do that through meditation, positive affirmations, gratitude and self development books and podcasts. I vow to only surround myself with positive people that lift me higher and avoid those who attempt to bring me down or bring drama into my life. And I refuse to let any type of negative talk or criticism find it’s way into my mind. There is only space for love, kindness and positivity in this mind of mine.

I will avoid comparing myself to others, putting myself down or punishing myself for mistakes and avoiding dealing with my issues. I will stop feeling rushed, like I have to make up for all the time I lost being sick, and push myself to achieve goals that I am not ready to achieve. I will achieve great things in due time, I just need to be patient and believe in the power of the universe.

I must also learn that I cannot rely on anybody to fill my void, that only I can fill that with love and kindness for myself. I am the most important person in the world and nobody can love me until I learn to love myself and the beautiful person that I am, and I can feel that I am getting there. I do love myself to a degree, but the rough days where the depression emerges, I need to learn to conquer that. Once I overcome this, then when something eventuates into a more beautiful relationship with a girl that I meet, then I will be ready.

So right now my main focus is this: radical self love, beautiful friendships and exploring all of the things that I enjoy and make me who I am. I will immerse myself in nature, writing, training at the gym, yoga, meditation, personal development, reading and building great relationships with incredible people. And then will great things follow- love, happiness and abundance.

I am on the pursuit of happiness.

Don’t mind me while I learn to fly.

teaghanlee xxx

 

The Magic Potion: Apple Cider Vinegar

Apple Cider Vinegar is by far one of the greatest things ever invented. I’d say it is pretty up there with snap seal bags and coconut oil. Apple_cider_vinegar.jpg

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Why you may ask? Well please let me take this opportunity to share with you why I start every morning with a warm drink of apple cider vinegar and lemon!

  1. It helps weight loss and assists in controlling your cravings and appetite
  2. Its a great fat-burning enhancer for workouts when added to water and aids with post work out to deter lactic acid build up
  3. It  contains acetic acid which helps balance pH levels and maintaining alkalinity in the body to reduce infection and disease
  4. It is a natural prebiotic assisting with the growth of good gut bacteria and consequently aiding digestion, heartburn and liver detox
  5. It contains vitamins, minerals, amino acids, micro nutrients and beneficial acids to maintain a healthy body and provide energy
  6. It works wonders on your lymphatic system reducing the symptoms of sore throats, allergies and congestion- also helps with reducing bad breath
  7. It assists in reduce candida overgrowth reducing sugar cravings, mental and physical fatigue and yeast infections

But wait, helping your body function properly are just some of the benefits this magic potion can provide:

  1. Its great for your skin as a toner, to reduce acne, eczema and break outs or to eliminate warts
  2. It soothes nasty sunburns
  3. It is a superb all natural, chemical free disinfectant and cleaner
  4. It aids in repelling fleas and parasites on your pets and producing a shiny coat
  5. It kills nasty weeds in your garden
  6. It aids in removing pesticides and other nasties from your fresh produce
  7. It acts as a teeth whitener eliminating stains and bacteria when used after brushing
  8. You can use it as a shampoo, natural dandruff remover and detangler for silky, shiny and healthy hair
  9. When rubbed on your muscles, it eliminates cramps and pains
  10. Rumour has it that it cures hiccups (yet to be proven)
  11. It eliminates the smell of cat urine
  12. Provides a great detox bath when mixed with epsom salts and lavender oil
  13. It acts as a great salad dressing
  14. Can be used as a natural deodorant
  15. Its magical and can be used for most infections or ailments including but not limited to PMS symptoms, arthritis, reducing cholesterol, morning sickness, athletes foot, nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, thrush, acid reflux and many more

Honestly, I could go on all day about the benefits of this stuff but I am pretty sure you get the point- it is bloody amazing.

So next time you are at your health food store grab a bottle of this stuff. Make sure you get one that still contains the Mother as this is what contains the essential ingredients. And if ingesting it or applying to to your skin, make sure that you dilute it with water first as it is very potent on it’s own.

Bonus: It isn’t expensive!

Enjoy the magic in a bottle 🙂

teaghanlee xxx

 

 

Midnight Revelations

Last night, at midnight, in a club of hundreds of people, I had a revelation.

Out of all places, who would of thought that on the dance floor of an Irish pub, in your sober state and surrounded by ruthless, intoxicated beings that you could have a moment. Well I confess, it happened to me.

Ever since the break up, I have been going through some major adjustments in the journey to try and find myself once again. Adjusting to being alone, finding my new routine and rediscovering my happiness. And boy, has it been an arduous and overwhelming process.

Naturally, when you emerge from a relatively long term relationship, in your state of bitterness and hurt, you kind of want to get out there and just have some random hookups to rub in your ex’s face. To show them that this is what they are missing out on, to make them jealous. Or to help mask the pain you are feeling with some other level of attachment. Not only did I feel I wanted to do this, despite the amicable breakup, but I put an imaginary sense of pressure on myself to do so. I did this, as the old, insecure and superficial me would once do. A person I thought had disappeared from my life forever.

After a few weeks, post break up (or maybe a week), I put myself on all the latest dating sites. Tinder, HER, Plenty of Fish, whatever I could find. I was just so clouded and keen to fill that void. And just quietly after 3 years of a relationship, was keen to get on the Tinder band wagon to see what all the hype was about. Now that I reflect, it’s a pretty stupid concept though, selecting girls and matching with them based on a picture. A true connection is centered around so much more then that. But admittedly, I did meet some cool people in the few weeks of my tinder/online dating journey.

In the whirlwind of emotion, I also felt it was essential to get myself back into the partying scene to try and get myself out there as much as possible (god knows why as I had had no success with this in the past). But after being in Melbourne for almost 3 years and having no idea of the latest lesbian night club hot spots, this was going to prove to be a bit of a challenge. And a scary one with the concept of not knowing any other lesbians in Melbourne. If I was back in Sydney, I would have been able to reconnect with all my gay friends and once again hit my fave lesbian pubs and clubs. But here, I was pretty alone.

In my journey’s on Tinder, I was lucky enough to meet some girls that kind of showed me the ropes when it comes to the Melbourne lesbian night life scene. However I knew my biggest challenge would not be finding cool places to hang out. The biggest challenge would be managing chronic fatigue with the required party lifestyle that I believed I needed to live out to meet girls. And learning to find a balance. Lets just say, late nights, drinking and lots of socialising don’t play out too well when you have limited energy levels. And managing that in between working, exercising and eating healthy was definitely going to be difficult. But if I wanted to meet new girls, this was the only way I could do it, wasn’t it? Well according to the old me, this was the case.

In the weeks, up until last night I focused on this mentality. As I scrolled through the profiles on Tinder and HER and the endless amounts of girls depicting drinking as a hobby or an essential in their pictures, I felt even more pressure to cave into the societal norms. Drinks, drinks and more drinks was the way it had to be if I wanted to find someone new. Or even just a new bunch of friends to hang out with. In hindsight, this was all probably a stupid idea.

On a few occasions, I ended up at some gay clubs where I bared witness to the new lifestyle I felt obligated to be a part of. I drank way too many shots, I danced way too much, perhaps even on a stage as well, and I made out with some pretty gorgeous girls. In those moments, I was happy and loving life. Was this what I really wanted though? To party all night to suffer the next day, even week after? To make an idiot of myself and make myself vulnerable after way too much alcohol? I guess I was just too clouded by my mission and hurt to think straight.

But last night, I finally realised something. This lifestyle, this so called obligation that I had pressured myself to give in to, it is not me.

For the past few years after getting chronic fatigue, I have battled so hard to change my thinking, my habits and my lifestyle. Instead of drinking shit loads of coffee to get through the day, keeping busy to the point where I never stopped, exercising like a machine and partying like crazy, I now preferred drinking tea, pacing my days, walks in the sunshine and Netflix and chilling as an alternative. My illness had come not to punish me or make me suffer, but as a blessing in disguise that allowed me to re-evaluate my life.

In that moment, while looking around the room at all the people making a mess of themselves, stumbling out of the toilet or dry humping in the corner, I came to the conclusion that I am not like this anymore. No longer did I feel like getting inebriated, hooking up with straight girls or dancing like I have had way to much vodka red bull. All I wanted to do was meet new people and have deep conversations about life. I had become a changed woman. And the changed woman was not having a bar of this orthodox lifestyle.

For weeks I had been fighting this inner me, the true me that I had become. Truth be told, I had probably been battling it for so much longer. Why? Because it seemed so different from the norm and nobody wants to feel different, even me. All I have ever wanted to do was fit in. But was it really worth sacrificing my newly invested values for? Probably not.

I cannot describe it, but I have always felt like I have never fit in. Even since the days of high school where I much preferred keeping to myself then conversing with people.But especially these days, after finding my new self, in every day society I feel it even more. And this has been one of the biggest challenges in my recovery. Not only have I had to adjust to life with a chronic illness, but I have had to deal with the fact that I am definitely different and think a lot differently to many of those around me. Or maybe I am just associating myself with the wrong people?

Now, I am not trying to sound egotistical nor am I degrading the lives of others around me. Each life has tremendous value, but it is up to that person to discover it. And I truly feel as though I am discovering mine as I operate on this deeper level of consciousness.

I am engaging on a spiritual journey, a life-changing shift and in this quest have discovered so much more about life then I ever thought imaginable. And it has made the little things in life, the petty things, seem so much more trivial. Bitchiness, negativity, drama, hatred, who has time for that? Well when you have limited energy and are on a quest to restore it, you learn that you don’t need pointless, energy-draining things like these in your life to deter you from what is really important- living life. It is the deeper things in this world that provide the most meaning and happiness. The kindness of a stranger, the beauty of nature, the feeling of overcoming your deepest fears, the moment you fall in love. One your death bed, it is these things that you will remember, that will matter.

In all the hype of clubbing, partying and drinking, I found myself contemplating all of these things. Drinking lemon water, having a deep intellectual conversation about life and drowning out all the music and chatter around me, the discovery hits me smack bang in the face. I am made for bigger things then this. And if I keep giving in to these imaginary obligations and trying to fit in with people with different priorities to mine, I will definitely end up back on the path I was on before chronic fatigue came and changed my life course. And that I do not want! So its time for me to get back on track despite this small hiccup of a distraction.

With the help of yoga, meditation, tai chi and healthy eating, I have found that I can derive more happiness from life then I ever thought humanly possible. In transforming from this old excessively energetic, frantic individual to this new, deeper and more centered soul, I am more in love with myself and my life then ever before. No longer can I try and be like everybody else and give into these societal and cultural norms. No longer should I feel like a weirdo for being different. No longer should I be distracted from my life purpose. I must stay true to myself and continue this personal journey that I am on.

For once in my life, my future is clear. Despite the shake up of a break up sending me slightly off course, I now know that I have been redirected back onto the right course. And my god the future is looking bright! World, you better watch out. Dare I say, there may still be some obstacles, like the aforementioned, that I may need to overcome but with each victory, I become a stronger, more intuitive person. And for that I am completely grateful.

What I want now in life is completely separate from anything the old me ever desired. I WILL travel the world, writing and sharing my passions with the people I meet and the one person who makes me happier then I make myself (you know who you are). I WILL continue to meet like-minded people and immerse myself in cultures who share the same morals and drive for life as I do. I WILL continue to fill my body with amazing, healthy foods that fuel me with the energy I need to live life to the full. I WILL restore my life energy and recover from chronic fatigue using yoga, nutrition, meditation and tai chi to help fellow sufferers and inspire them to reclaim their lives. I WILL complete every single thing on my bucket list. I WILL be unstoppable, courageous and infuse positive energy into the lives of others and the world around me.

I do not have time to waste on not being the authentic me.

This is my life purpose. Ain’t no time for diversions now baby.

Get out and live yours!

teaghanlee xxx